"The best way to dehumanize someone while claiming you’re not is to believe you are just the same. You erase their experiences and perspective, their struggles and obstacles, their unique way of having to deal with those things in a world that also erases them. With the words, ‘but humans are humans’ or the bullshit dramatics of ‘we all bleed red’ normal people can simply pretend that if we all did things the way they did, then everything would work out okay. But, yes, we all bleed red but you don’t treat a papercut the same way you treat a gash, you don’t treat an infected wound the same way you treat one that isn’t, you don’t treat a wound to the leg the same way you treat a wound to the gut. You are not acknowledging someone’s personhood when you ignore the very things that make their lives different than yours, and when you refuse to understand that their circumstances have given them their own perspective that is just as valid as yours. More valid in fact – their perspective about their experiences that you haven’t been through is far more valid than anything you could ever think about it."
Vote LAURA JANE GRACE in the Out100 Reader’s Choice Awards
Okay, but who's that?
Laura Jane Grace is the frontwoman of an American punk rock band, Against Me!. (official site) She started the band in 1997 and has since gained popularity in the punk rock community.
Why is she in the Out100, a list for LGBTQ people? Well, in 2012 she came out as a trans woman. Moreover, she identifies as genderqueer. She likes girls. She is also badass, but i’m not sure if that’s a queer thing.
She’s now made a series showing various perspectives on gender told by trans people, called True Trans.
Why vote for a cis, transphobic gay man if you could vote for a gorgeous, talented trans woman who represents a big part of the community?
Give me more reasons to vote?
All reasons will come to you if you listen to Against Me!’s music [listen to the album Transgender Dysphoria Blues here and buy it when you can] and read her twitter. Just a small amount out of the awesome things she did:
and if THATS not enough, you just come and see me and ask and i’ll give you more reasons. Laura is a life savior and one of the best possible people to admire. So, vote for her while you can. And reblog this to spread the word.
How did you come to realise you were agender? Because I've been thinking I might be (well maybe 'my brain keeps sucker punching my sense of myself as cis' is more accurate)
When I really think about it, it wasn’t so much realizing that I could be agender so much as realizing that the word “agender,” upon discovering it, described everything I already felt, if that makes any sense.
For my entire life, I’ve straddled the gender lines. I was a little girl who wanted gold high heels for Christmas and dressed like I was going to high court, yet I brawled with the boys during recess. I cut my hair short as soon as my age hit double digits, but painted my bedroom bright pink. I didn’t think twice about choosing to live as a boy named Alex for several years, and not a single member of my family seemed to think that was out of character. Even though I sang soprano in choir, my natural speaking voice was deeper and more gruff than most of the boys I went to school with.
I was just “me.” I felt a little weird when people referred to me as a girl, yet being labeled a boy just didn’t feel right, either. Yet, I was in the fortunate position of growing up in a diverse neighborhood with a very liberal family, so I didn’t have to push myself into any boxes before I was ready. I honestly just didn’t think about my gender for years.
It wasn’t until I read about the concept of “agender” a few years ago that I had an “aha” moment. It essentially described how I felt and how I had been living my life; it was the first time I had ever heard a person described that sounded like me.
The funny thing is: I think a lot more people fit into that term than they realize, because “agender” is essentially saying "my gender isn’t important to me, (but my lack of gender kind of is.*)" Obviously, we need better marketing. But like my upbringing, I want everyone to have the chance to suss out their own identities. There’s a huge myriad of ways to be human, after all.
It’s okay to change your identity. It’s okay to discover new and different versions of yourself and it is okay to move forward and completely change your identities as they come and go and are. To be human is to be fluid, to change. You are not invalid for doing so.
SUNGMIN SUPPORT PROJECT 2014 →
Hello everyone! We are holding a support project in the midst of all the hate that Sungmin has been receiving, in hopes that we might be able to make his heart a little lighter.
So, if you have a few words of support you’d like to pass along to Sungmin, our project is another letter project…